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Since the New Year, I’ve been spending a lot of time reflecting on my goals for our business and re-evaluating what I want my life to look like.

It’s got me inspired and rarin’ for action.  Except for one thing…


When I look at that well-intentioned list of things I’d like to accomplish, and everything I need to do to get there, it feels as daunting as climbing Mount Everest…or maybe a whole mountain chain full of Mount Everests.  Holy smokes!  How will I ever get there?

A Little Advice From Sam

A story for those Tolkien fans out there…

If you recall in The Lord of the Rings movie, The Return of the King, Frodo and Sam set out with the ring to destroy it in the fires of Mordor.  It’s one long, perilous journey for two defenseless hobbits.  

They’re weak, tired, hungry (what?  no second breakfast?!?) and scared out of their minds.  Finally, they arrive at Mordor.  

Frodo looks out at the thousands of orcs swarming the place, fiery steaming death traps everywhere, and no way in.  “There are so many of them.  We’ll never get through unseen. It’s him, the Eye,” he sighs in despair.

Sam puts a gentle hand on his friend’s shoulder.  “Let’s just make it down the hill, for starters.”

Just Make It Over the Next Hill

Whatever your goals are for your wedding business this year, when you think about all the things you have to do, all the stuff you have to learn, all the technical hurdles you have to jump to get there, it’s a LONG overwhelming journey that can make you want to throw in the towel before you even begin.

So how do you get over the dreaded Overwhelm and get moving instead?

Take Sam’s advice and stop looking at all the things that need to be done, and focus on simply getting to the bottom of the hill.

One hill at a time, one task at a time, one day at a time.  Just focus on the very NEXT action you need to take, and don’t worry about climbing the rest of those hills until you get to them.

Proven Recipe For Fast Action

If like me and you’ve got a list of Things To Do that seems insurmountable, pick your #1 goal and figure out the very next thing you need to do to move toward.  Just focus on that next hill.  Here’s how…

  1. Pick your #1 Goal.
  2. Determine the very next small, achievable action you need to take to get there.  We’re talking SMALL, like making a phone call, sending an email or locating a resource.  Something you can do TODAY.
  3. Take that action.
  4. Identify the very next small, achievable action and take it.
  5. Repeat Steps 2-4 until you reach your destination.

Growing to the next level is scary, overwhelming and it takes some work.  Someone explained to me that it’s like you’re climbing this set of stairs stretching into the distance.  You don’t know how many steps…you can’t even see them…let alone what’s required at each one.

But you know the NEXT step right in front of you.  And once you’re there, you can see the next, and the next…

You’ll get there, one step at a time.

How do you keep yourself motivated when you’re discouraged and overwhelmed?

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9 thoughts on “Got Goals? Take Advice From a Hobbit”

  1. Hi Steph & Jeff!

    I’ve been following your blog for quite some time now (2 years +/-) and was one of the early recipients of the Price Shopper Email Formula guide. Since then, I’ve used bits and pieces of it without too much luck but remained steadfast in my prices. Yesterday, I got another “tire-kicker” and thought, “what am I doing wrong?” I grabbed my copy of your guide and read V-E-R-Y carefully before I responded. I attached the soft copy of my wedding budget calculator as the bride bribe and almost immediately received a response requesting a meeting. Wow! It works! My thanks is belated, but it’s my own fault for not following instructions. THANK YOU – THANK YOU – THANK YOU!!!

  2. June & Joanne, thanks for the kind words. I figure I might as well remind you not to get overwhelmed while I’m reminding myself.

    Chris, even though occasionally I long for that blue pill…I keep picking the red one.

  3. Joanne says:

    Wow! What a perfect word at the right time. I just took a deep breath, calmed down, and now I can focus on that 1 next small step. Thanks.

  4. chris says:

    The Matrix is my movie of choice for profound life lessons. Sounds like you both have taken the red pill.

  5. June says:

    Stephanie–very inspiring analogy. Who said movies are just for entertainment? It’s great to read your posts and have that beacon there when things look a little bit grey. It’s always wonderful to have tips, hints, ideas, and more that are REAL and have a place in our busy worlds. Thank you for sharing and excelling.

  6. This is SO TRUE. And not only on the days you are ready to quit, or at the start of a new year – but every day.

    I am still working on making my “Winter 2010” goals come to fruition. They were BIG goals. I finally had to confess to myself (for the first time in my life) that I could not tackle them all at once and stay healthy, stay sane, and stay in the wedding business.

    I leaned that I love ideas and that just because I have one – even a good one – did not mean that I needed to act on it. Maybe not now. Maybe not ever. I let the ideas be complete projects in and of themselves. I wrote them down and I did nothing more. If the idea did not go away days, weeks, or even months later THEN I made a plan or took some action. This went on until October 2011.

    Now, at the beginning of 2012, we are implementing the “Best Of Plans” quickly, simply, and with a great deal of satisfaction and resolve that what we are doing is the right thing to do.

    I could have struggled and pushed my way through 2011. And you know what? I wouldn’t be any better off today. I may even have made matters worse. For now, I have to go! Its time to get to work…

    1. [quote name=”Rev. Sherry Mullins”]
      I leaned that I love ideas and that just because I have one – even a good one – did not mean that I needed to act on it…

      I could have struggled and pushed my way through 2011. And you know what? I wouldn’t be any better off today. [/quote]

      I’m so glad you shared this! I love your idea for implementing the “Best of” your plans and ideas. I like to think about the ones that will make the biggest difference in your life; that’s certainly not always business.

  7. Reyeh says:

    All I have to say is THANK YOU! I have been very detached lately. I become inspired every time I receive an email from you and or read one of your blogs. Your personality and truth as a human has made me know, I’m not a failure in this industry. Rather, it is just a challenging one and especially more times than not. So, thank you for being YOU and giving me a nudge and glimpse of hope for 2012 (“one step at a time”). ♥

    1. Reyeh,

      Thank YOU for sharing this. You made my day. 🙂

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