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A couple of weeks ago I finally stepped up and addressed a dirty little secret in my life. This “addiction” was starting to take a toll on my health and over all well being. I had reached the point where I was indulging in this bad habit pretty much from when I woke up till I went to bed.

What am I talking about? An addiction to the news.

I’m sure some would say that’s BS. “That’s not a problem; it’s important to keep up with current events…Don’t be one of those people with their heads in the sand. In these trying times you need to have your finger on the pulse, blah, blah, blah…”

There was a time (a couple of weeks ago perhaps) where I would have been the one pointing out the need to have up to date commentary on the day to day struggles in our political system.

Garbage in Garbage Out

I’m not completely sure what finally was the tipping point for me. Sure, the non-stop political spin made me what to scream and choke the crap out of someone.

On a regular basis, Stephanie asks me, “Is this edifying?” (Her way of asking if the news was “improving” me.) I usually grumble something about keeping up with what’s happening, leave me alone…Grrrr!

My son recently pointed out, “Hey, Dad, you ever notice that they repeat the same story over and over all day with the only difference being the talking head spewing it? Kind of mind numbing, huh?”

My friend Barry recently shared with me that he had “cut the cord” about 12 years ago and stopped consuming bad news, which essentially is pretty much 95% of it.

Cutting the Cord

At first I was appalled by the notion of this. You know, that whole “staying on top of what’s happening” thing. But then I took a good look at how successful, happy, and downright Zen Barry was, and couldn’t help but start the dreaded self reflection.

What if the increased blood pressure, acid indigestion, massive time suck and general pissy mood wasn’t really worth it?

Maybe the world would be ok with out my constant monitoring.

So I took the leap and shut the idiot box off. I erased the links to my favorite news sites. I essentially went “dark”.

It’s been about three weeks and I’ve got to tell you, I’m a better man for it. Yeah, I’ve done a wee bit of cheating here and there, but overall it’s been a huge change.

No more starting my morning with death, robbery, disaster or listening to some pundit bitching. I’m playing my guitar more. I’m chatting with my girl. I’m making a plan for how I’m going to dominate my market..Bwahaha!

More importantly, I’m not starting my day in a negative state.

What’s Your Bad Influence?

So what the hell does this have to do with running a successful wedding business? Well, just about everything!

There will never be a shortage of things to distract us from what’s really important. Unfortunately, negative stuff can be very enticing.

I think about all the time I’ve burned up on things that in the end didn’t feed me at all. What if instead I had focused that time on my family and business? Would I be closer to where I want to be?

You may not be a political news nut like me. Maybe you just love to gossip or maybe you’re addicted to reality train wreck shows like Jersey Shore (God I hope not!) I ask you, “Is this edifying?”We have a choice about quite a bit of the negativity that enters our heads.

Have you ever tried something new to promote your business and had it fail, then blamed it on the crappy economy and given up?

All the negativity we expose ourselves to on a daily basis ends up directing our actions. Instead of easily excepting defeat, we can take an empowered approach and adjust our actions to make it work instead.

Could switching to a diet rich in positive data make this a tad bit easier?

Maybe give it a go and share your results. I’d love to hear your good news.

What bad news are you willing to dump for 2012? Leave a comment and inspire someone!

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Jeff Padovani is a professional musician, wedding business marketing strategist and resident wise ass at Book More Brides. He’s the “big ideas” mastermind behind the many business ventures (and misadventures!) he enjoys with his wife, Stephanie.

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26 thoughts on “Bad News is Bad For the Wedding Business”

  1. Christine says:

    This is great. Especially in the wedding industry. The brides are having the best moments in their lives and we don’t need to be all doom and gloom and “what colors do you want, when is your wedding, pay me now.” We need to celebrate with them! And also, I know in the invitation biz, spending all that time watching the news is time I could be using to come up with more designs…to make MORE money! Thanks for sharing!

  2. This is so very true…. My addiction was reality tv…ugh. Had to cut the cord and do something else with the time. Its hard to break habits but one baby step at a time. Today reality tv tomorrow the LMN network!!! Have a great and awesome week everyone!!!

  3. Ed says:

    How true!
    remember the song?
    ‘accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, and don’t mess with Mr inbetween!’

  4. Jakki Millo says:

    It’s funny that you wrote this because I was thinking the same thing. My 9 year old daughter and I were watching the news (mainly for the weather) and my daughter said, “The news is just like gossip Mommy.” WOW! Out of the mouth of babes. World news is important to keep up with but most of the news today is about ratings…and reality show drama is what sells these days. ARGH!

    1. Stephanie Padovani says:

      A news-free diet is worth a try. It’s amazing how much brighter the world looks without all that negativity.

      And you can still get “the news” filtered through friends, family and acquaintances. :)

  5. I had been wanting to do this for a long time and a few months ago the bulb went out in my DLP television so I just didn’t replace it! It has been great not having to listen to how many murders were committed in the city last night ( I live in New Orleans and there are always murders, some times 2 or 3). As Christmas was approaching I was considering replacing it and last Tuesday someone broke in and stole my TV (yes the one that has a bad bulb) so now I’m not tempted to go back to my old ways.

    1. Sounds like the Universe has a message for you there. Glad it’s working for ya!

  6. I love hearing all these great stories of how life has improved after ditching the “bad news.”

    Maybe it will help Jeff stay on the wagon this time. :-)

  7. Lynn White says:

    I gave up watching the news almost 2 years ago. It’s amazing how removing that 1 negative part of my day made a difference. I’ve also gotten rid of many negative, exhausting relationships in the past year. Being negative is a choice. I choose to be positive.

  8. Linda Ruckdeschel says:

    Reverse the polarity. There’s good news in the bad news. It might help you see something positive you’ve been overlooking, or spur you on to correct something you can’t stand. Whatever the bads news is, find something positive in it… turn it around, and use it to your advantage with your customers. The really bad news is that is that things COULD be worse. So what are you going to do with YOUR bad news today ?

    1. [quote name=”Linda Ruckdeschel”]Reverse the polarity. There’s good news in the bad news. It might help you see something positive you’ve been overlooking, or spur you on to correct something you can’t stand. Whatever the bads news is, find something positive in it… turn it around, and use it to your advantage with your customers. The really bad news is that is that things COULD be worse. So what are you going to do with YOUR bad news today ?[/quote]

      Good point, Linda.

      I have a habit of spinning things to the positive as much as possible.

      I’m still cautious about what I take in, though. Of course, if it gets through the filters, the spin is on!

  9. Bill Britton says:

    I was a junkie, then finally had to turn it off – only led to despair. Now, since Occupy Wall Street, I have hope again, I’m listening again, and I’m doing something about “it” (the sorry state of affairs) – not camping, but I’ve marched, and I’m using my influence online to try to move others to become involved also. I even started a blog (separate from my wedding blog!) – occupyevangelicals.org. I don’t want to explain to my grandchildren later than when the Civil Rights Movement of our day was “happening”, that all I was trying to do was make more money. (And don’t get me wrong, I’m for making more money!)

    1. [quote name=”Bill Britton”]I was a junkie, then finally had to turn it off – only led to despair. Now, since Occupy Wall Street, I have hope again, I’m listening again, and I’m doing something about “it” (the sorry state of affairs) – not camping, but I’ve marched, and I’m using my influence online to try to move others to become involved also. I even started a blog (separate from my wedding blog!) – occupyevangelicals.org. I don’t want to explain to my grandchildren later than when the Civil Rights Movement of our day was “happening”, that all I was trying to do was make more money. (And don’t get me wrong, I’m for making more money!)[/quote]

      This is really interesting…

      The thing I love is that you’re taking ACTION. Most of the time we get worked up about the news and let is paralyze us.

      The Occupy movement is accomplishing something, even if that something is just making us talk about it.

  10. Janis Flagg says:

    I’ve found only a couple of radio stations where I can say that I learned anything relevant. Rare find! After watching “news”, I found myself asking if that was really information that was accurate or if it was something I really needed to know. It just brings on too much stress. I really believe there are more good things happening in the world than bad.

  11. Bradles says:

    Hi Jeff,

    Agreed. If anyone needs help going dark check out the stayfocussed plugin for Chrome (I think its also available for firefox). It will force you to stay dark once you reach a daily cap that you set yourself. It’s working for me so far :)

    1. Jeff Padovani says:

      Going check that out..thanks for the tip!

    2. [quote name=”Bradles”]Hi Jeff,

      Agreed. If anyone needs help going dark check out the stayfocussed plugin for Chrome (I think its also available for firefox). It will force you to stay dark once you reach a daily cap that you set yourself. It’s working for me so far :)[/quote]

      I love this idea! I’m a fan of making your success inevitable, which means putting forced limitations in place, when necessary.

      Thanks for sharing!

  12. Anne Roos says:

    I stopped watching the news ages ago. The majority of it is depressing and not uplifting, and I don’t need that kind of influence on my life and thoughts.

    I simply scan daily digests in my inbox from yahoo or huffpost or my local tv station. If there is something of interest to me, I’ll go and read the story. Otherwise, I delete the digest and I’m done.

    1. totally agree,
      but,the local news is the most depressing and a waste of time, you will always get the “highlights” on the radio anyway if you have to drive around town

      1. Anne Roos says:

        I do listen to radio news, but very selectively. Some of it is as bad as TV, especially the political pundits.

  13. Thanks Jeff! I turned off the news a few years ago! Trying to get my husband to do the same!

    1. Jeff Padovani says:

      Yeah, Steph has been on me for years as well..sometimes I’m a little stubborn!

  14. Marika Lane says:

    Hi Jeff, I like good news over bad any day of the week. You are completely right to tune out from the bad news. It’s always there and it’s beyond our individual control. Have yourself a great day.

  15. Marika Lane says:

    Hi Jeff, I like good news over bad any day of the week. You are completely right to tune out from the bad news. It’s always there and it’s beyond our individual control. Have yourself a great day.

  16. Thank you Jeff for sharing and inspiration! I definetely will dump altogehter my whining about the economy and my situation in it year 2012. Although I ever say it aloud, it is in my mind screaming and it affects me. It has to go, I need to get that first year as entrepreneur enthuastim going strong again and my own bad news it will be DUMPED!

  17. Brian Smyer says:

    Great article! Thank you for sharing.

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